Bring Your Relationship Into Full Bloom and Keep It Healthy

We now can be connected to one another through many social media sites. We can get an instant thumbs up or down on our actions and gather hundreds of friends in a very short period of time, most of whom we will probably never meet. It is so easy to click a button or touch a screen in order to get the desired results – instant relationship. We may forget that taking care of a non virtual relationship follows other principles.

You might be surprised how much gardening and taking care of a relationship have in common.

Like a garden a relationship needs regular attention. It is best to know what you want to cultivate in it and what you do not. For example, do you want to cultivate your fighting skills or do you want to improve your skills to love? Do you want to learn from each other or do you want to build up resentments around your differences?

In gardening it is helpful to have the right tools, strong seeds or starts, enough sun and water, and a healthy soil. Like a garden sometimes your relationship may need extra fertilizer and you need to keep toxic chemicals(toxic communication styles) out of it. A relationship like a garden can have disappointing and unsatisfying moments. You may not get what you envisioned and may be unhappy with some results. Having an open and curious mind will help you finding out what works and what does not. It will help you finding solutions. Commitment is as essential for a garden as it is for a relationship. Being patient and trusting your own good work is needed as well.

If you can provide all I mentioned in the garden analogy above, the resulting relationships in your life can go beyond your expectations and there can be so much to enjoy! There is one major  difference between a garden and a relationship. While you can easily garden on your own it takes two committed gardeners for a relationship to make it thrive, blossom and produce sweet fruit.

I believe all the tools and concepts I have learned on my path to become a relationship system coach should be common knowledge. Although my main focus in this blog is on intimate relationships a lot can be transferred and applied to any relationship: with your children, colleagues, co-workers, and friends.  Even bosses and their employees can profit.